Wednesday, June 4, 2008

It happened again.....

.....I was at the mall last night and I bumped into someone I used to work with. We exchanged the usual pleasantries, her eyes dipped downwards to my poochy belly and then she dropped this bomb on me:
"Oh, and are you expecting again?"

I gave my usual answer to the question. "No. I'm just chubby." Her expression changed to embarassment and she stared at her feet for a moment. It was at this point in the exchange I had to run off and chase Char so I was blissfully released from her conversation.

How many times do I have to repeat myself? DON'T EVER ask a woman if she is pregnant. You have a 50/50 chance of crushing a nice person's self esteem and looking like a real jerk in the process. Do you really want that for yourself?? If you are talking to someone and she is actually pregnant it will probably come up in conversation. If it doesn't, perhaps it was none of your business in the first place.

I did the math while I was in the shower this morning. Out of the past 69 months of my life I have been pregnant for 30 of them. (I am counting from the time I got pregnant with Emmett until now, give or take a day or two.) That is almost half of the past 6 years spent gestating. I have always carried my weight around my belly. When I was in high school and 120 lbs and rollerblading and in marching band I had a little poochy belly. I was blessed with legs that could stop traffic and a gorgeous little chest that stood at attention. (Oh how I miss those! The girls have never been the same since they were called into active duty.) My belly has never behaved. I am pretty sure it won't be recovering from the past six years of up and down weight gain and loss without some surgical intervention.

So, long ranty story short: DON"T . Do. Not. Ever. Ask a woman who is curvy if she is pregnant. If you are supposed to know, she will tell you.

Thank you for your time and your consideration.


Bobbi said...

Well said! And grr to her for being a twit!

Anonymous said...

I remember being shocked the FIRST time it happened to you. That time it was a STRANGER to boot, wasn't it? Some people are flat out DUMB.

April said...

Sheesh. Why do people never learn??!

Anonymous said...

You know, I've been thinking about this alot. I've decided that you need to carry a copy of that picture of you from last summer where Char's hiding from the sun UNDER your very prego belly. Then you can say: "Heck, no, I'm not expecting again, but look at the miraculous (sp?) recovery I've made so far!" 'Cause, honey, you were gorgeous, but you were huge, and now you're just gorgeous.

Love you.

Anonymous said...

Ouch! You'd think that would just be common sense! No ice cream.