Monday, February 13, 2012

Struggling

My last couple of posts have been rather light and fluffy.  I have been glossing over life lately because facing it parts of it head-on hurts my brain too much.

Charlotte is not the only one testing me.  Matthew is having the eerily similar potty issues to Emmett.  I didn't cope well with Emmett's potty issues and my coping skills are no better and are probably worse this time around.  I feel like I am under the gun as I don't have a diagnosis and an EA assigned to Matthew in Kindergarten this fall.  I just have the months of the calendar ticking away as I struggle to get his issues under control before he becomes That Kid Who Poops His Pants at school.  I am faced with the thought that I may have to homeschool him if I can't get him figured out and I am not sure I have the strength for that.  I will NOT willfully put him into a position where he could be ridiculed and singled out so unless he is reliably potty trained by September I will withdraw his school registration.  I really hope it doesn't come to this.  I know that homeschooling is becoming more widely accepted and that many families do it with great success.  I just don't think I have it in me.

In other news, Emmett has been flying under the radar lately, but some new issues have come to light.  He said No to the Scouts Sleepover because he has anxiety about sleeping in an unfamiliar environment with people he doesn't know very well.  It is Winter Camp time and he would like to participate. His Grandma would like to help him out by letting him sleep at her cabin at night so he can still participate during the day. (Her cabin is very close to where Winter Camp is being held.)  I am trying to figure out the line with him--should I request these special accommodations or make him participate in camp fully?  I like the idea of letting him stay with Grandma at night, but will that single him out and make him the butt of jokes as much as he would be if he had a meltdown from overstimulation or if he had an accident in his sleeping bag at night?  I have purposefully kept the Scout leaders on a Need to Know basis with Emmett and his quirks as I wanted them to treat him like they would treat any other Scout, so am I asking too much now?

Clearly I have more questions than answers right now.  I guess I just have to keep bumbling along.

I promise there will be more cutesy pictures and stories soon.

2 comments:

craftosaurus said...

Big hugs, lady! For what it's worth I think you're an awesome parent.

Carolyn said...

Awww, hugs. It will sort itself out. Have you tried to get a Dx for him?

If it helps, there's a new local homeschool coop starting up that might fit the bill if you need to go that route in September, it's geared for younger kids. Kinder is optional anyway in the school system, or put him in nursery if he's so-so trained, can go a couple of hours, but not ready for a full day yet.